Have you ever felt judged? Ever felt like you weren’t good enough? Ever felt like you couldn’t be who you truly are because someone constantly judges you? What about feeling worthless? Have you ever felt like nothing you do is ever good enough? Someone or maybe several people make you feel like you have to act a certain way to be loved. You have to be perfect.
What about as a mother. Have you ever felt like you weren’t a good mother? Ever felt like you weren’t doing a good enough job with your children. You see the way people look at you… look at your children. They may even judge how you play with your children, how you feed your children, and they even judge the decisions you make for your children.
What about as a wife? Do you feel judged because your marriage isn’t perfect? Judged because your husband isn’t perfect. Your husband doesn’t have the best job? You don’t have the best job?
You maybe aren’t the perfect friend you should be either. You and your friends made some mistakes in your life and now you are judged because of it. Always labeled as something because you were “that” friend.
Do you ever feel like you are being judged, so much so, that it almost knocks the air out of you. You struggle to breath. Struggle to hold back the emotions…the tears. You feel like you are in a whirlwind or sometimes even in a different world. It doesn’t seem real at times. How can people be so hurtful? How can people make you feel so miserable, so little, so beat down?
Unfortunately, it happens all the time. It hurts to be judged. Especially when it is constant. It can be a long, painful journey when you are constantly in the eye of scrutiny. And most of the time, there is nothing you can do about it.
Don’t get me wrong, I have judged numerous people over the years too. Sometimes I catch myself and think why? Why did I just say that? Or why did I just think that? After having so much judgement put on my life, I have tried hard over the years to not be that person.
So why do we judge others? Are we scared? Jealous? Do people feel so miserable that they have to put others down to make themselves feel better? Honestly, the reason doesn’t matter. What matters is what we can do about it.
The bible says “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye, when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?” Matthew 7:1-4.
When I feel judged I am reminded of those verses in the Bible, and I try to remember these things:
- God is the only true judge.
- I can’t stop people from judging me.
- There will always be people out there who judge others, don’t be like them.
- Those people will also be judged by God someday.
What others think about you doesn’t really matter. I simply just try to be the best mom, wife, daughter, friend I can be. Get your big girl pants on and keep taking on the day!