Hey friends! I want to get real today and talk about naughty behaviors and what we can do about it! Let’s face it… our kids are not perfect and though at times we like to think so, it’s just not true! There are the occasional meltdowns, fit throwing, hitting, screaming, and so on we all as parents deal with. So I wanted to share a little something with you today that has helped me tremendously in my parenting endeavors. My mom, who is a counselor at an elementary school, has used these for years! I have been using it for several years now with both my children, and it has helped turnaround and redirect negative behaviors sometimes instantly!
It is a behavior chart! I have seen the behavior charts my mom uses at her school, and I needed to make some modifications to my own. I simply went into Microsoft Word, opened up a table, and went to town! It took me, maybe, 15 minutes, then I saved it so I can go back and print more when I need them. I modified it to fit my schedule with my children. I used a column for every part of the day we encounter, for example, wake up, breakfast, morning play, lunch, nap, etc. Then, I used a row for each day of the week. I like to let them choose what stickers they want to use. Landon likes the little “ball” stickers and Calisty likes the star stickers.
The kids can earn ten stickers each day, but they also get sad faces when they do something wrong. When the kids were little, after they earned three stickers, they could earn something. This doesn’t have to be anything big, I use to give my kids one m&m after they got three stickers. Now that they are older, they have to earn so many throughout the week in order to get rewarded. My kids love sleepovers at grandma and grandpas house, so each week they work on earning their stickers so they can do a sleepover!
Behavior charts are a great idea, but you have to use it correctly. If you simply put the stickers on the chart without discussing it with your child, you won’t see any positive results. You and your child must do it together, and go over his/her behavior in order for the behavior chart to work. I will discuss this further in my next blog post!
Please, try this with your children and let me know the results! You may see some positive results instantly, but for some behavior to change, it may take several weeks! Check out this post to read how to actually use the behavior chart properly. I have attached the file to my behavior chart that you can use and modify to fit your schedule.