Hey friends! So today I want to talk about how to actually use the behavior chart! Remember in this post I told you about what I used for naughty behavior and introduced the behavior chart I use. Now, you will actually learn how to implement it and use it with your child/children.
It doesn’t matter what age your child is either… any child can successfully use a behavior chart as long as the parent uses it correctly. So here we go!
- Introduce the chart to your child. I explained to my kids what the chart was and that it was going to help them with their behavior. This is your first opportunity to talk to your child about it and explain that he/she will start earning stickers and eventually rewards for good behavior.
- Let the child have some fun with it! I took my child to the store and let him pick out stickers he wanted to use on his chart. That way he is interested in the chart, and likes to see his stickers when he earns them.
- Talk things over with your child. When my child misbehaves I put a “sad face” on the chart. That tells him/her that it “made mommy sad when you did that, so you didn’t earn your sticker.” This teaches the child empathy and you can talk about why your child lost that sticker.
- Make your child take responsibility for his/her behavior. Have your child tell you what he/she did wrong. Then, you can go over what he/she can do to turn around his/her behavior. Talking things through helps the child learn exactly what is not acceptable .
- Reinforce GOOD behavior too! Always talk things through when your child earns a sticker as well, not just when he doesn’t earn it. This reinforces positive behavior instead of always focusing on the negative behavior.
- Put the chart somewhere in the house where you see it often. I keep mine in the kitchen because we are in the kitchen a lot throughout the day. This gives us plenty of opportunities to look at the chart and talk about it.
- Go over the chart often. My children have the opportunity to earn ten stickers throughout the day. You don’t have to go over the chart every single time, but go over it often. Now that my children are in a routine with it, we go over it at breakfast, lunch, dinner, and bedtime. Those are times when we are in the kitchen and sitting down and relaxed.
- Let your child earn a reward. When my kids were little, they had to earn three stickers and then they would get an m&m as a reward. As they got older, I made them earn more stickers. Now, my kids have to earn eight stickers a day to earn something. One thing they love to earn is a sleepover at grandmas and grandpas house, and they have to earn so many stickers throughout the week to earn that. Also, they can earn time to play with play-doh, go get ice cream, etc! If you want your child to earn money, let them earn 25 cents if he/she earns so many stickers throughout the day. Talk it over with your child and ask them what they would like to earn.
- Remind, remind, remind! I often remind my kids while they are out and about that they are earning their stickers. If my son starts to act out I remind him he is earning stickers for a sleepover, and more often than not, that turns his behavior around. Nighttime can be tough for some parents so making your kids earn a sticker for staying in bed all night can really turn that around!
- Have fun with it! My kids enjoy going over their stickers and earning rewards. It’s something easy and simple for me to do everyday and it works awesome!
Please try this at home!! Check out this post for a link to the behavior chart I use. Modify it to fit your schedule and start letting your kids earn rewards!! I don’t know what I would do without my behavior charts. As always, please comment below and let me know if you are going to try this or email me at email@example.com with questions.